天氣冷，但是新聞讓我們覺得更寒冷！
我們知道，和你愛的家人擁抱，是最單純的幸福；可是在這個瘋狂的世界，有時候這竟然是一個奢侈的願望...丫丫園地謹向所有 Sandy Hook 小學槍擊案的受害者家庭致意，願你們在悲傷中尋回力量。
All of us are stunned and deeply saddened by the horrible senseless crime that took place at Newton. Our hearts go out to the victims' families and the town of Newtown, Conn.
We also want to thank many of our parents and associates reaching out to us to help us find many helpful resources for parents to deal with this troublesome incidents, and try to make it a bit easier for all our children to navigate onward.
如何與你的孩子討論這次的槍擊案？
記得上次寫關於這類暴力事件是7月份科州戲院槍擊案，想不到這麼快竟然又有一個讓人心痛的慘案，希望以下内容能對家長們有幫助。我們也十分感謝很多家長和社區朋友與我們分享了很多有用的資訊，讓更多父母可以一同分享和學習。
Traumatic events such as what occurred friday in newtown, connecticut, deeply effects each of us. We, as parents, need support in working through a myriad of feelings such as sorrow, grief, anger, and confusion. We need emotional support ourselves in order to best support our children. Many of us have been leaning on one another throughout this week for this kind of support. Additionally, we need a foundation for how to discuss such events with our children who are not always protected from media coverage and over-heard conversations, or the general atmosphere or "energy" they adeptly perceive from adults in their lives.
http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/32/64/Helping-Children-Exposed-to-Shocking-Events
http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/204/64/Mommy-Do-Kids-Die-Helping-Children-with-Death
http://www.enjoyparenting.com/daily-groove/tragedy
· The National Association of School Psychologists - Resources to cope with violence
· The National Child Traumatic Stress Network - Tips for talking to children about the shooting
· The National Education Association - School crisis guide
· American Academy of Pediatrics - Talking with children
· Child Care Aware - Helping families and children cope
· American Psychological Association - Helping children manage distress
· National Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry - Coping with tragic events
· Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration - Coping with violence and traumatic events
· Sesame Workshop - A resource for parents and caregivers
· Helping Children Deal with Tragic Events in the News - Timeless wisdom from Fred Rogers for parents, teachers, and caregivers
· Tips for Talking to Children and Youth after Traumatic Events
· Helping Children Cope with Tragedy-related Anxiety
· After the Crisis: Using Storybooks to Help Children Cope
· Media Coverage of Traumatic Events
Resources & Commentary via NYCORE
· He Barely Said a Word by Diane Ravitch
· Thoughts on the Tragedy at Sandy Hook School by Bill Howe
· Do We Have the Courage to Stop This? by Nicholas D. Kristof
· First we mourn, then we organize by Bob Peterson
· Talking with Kids About News via PBS Parents
· Tragic Events in the News by Fred Rogers
Additional Resources & Commentary
· Connecticut School Shooting Tragedy: Child Trauma is at the Heart of Every Act of Violence by Laurie A. Coutur
· Helping Children Exposed to Shocking Events by Patty Wipfler
· Obama Speaks at Sandy Hook Vigil (VIDEO)
· Why Schools Are a Target of Choice by Michael Reist
· The Care of Your Soul Became Mine by Charles Koun
· Tips for Talking to Children About the Shooting by Benedict Carey
· Answering questions about Asperger's Syndrome by Jennifer Cerbasi
· When the World is a Dangerous Place: Helping Children Deal with Violence by Diane E. Levin
· When a Gunman Shames Us All by Jurriaan Kamp
· 4 Ways to Stop Gun Violence by Benjamin Van Houten
· Sandy Hook Must Push Us Toward the Collective and Away from Individualism by Bryce Covert
source: Maggie Choi, South Bay Mom's Group
Common Sense Media
How do you try to make sense of this senseless crime and instill some sense of comfort and logics in their little minds? Are we going to scare them too much? Many parents are confused about whether to talk to their kids about this news, and if they plan to, what is the best way to handle this. The following handy tips are from Common Sense Media and we hope it helps you.
Help put the news in perspective 接收新聞資訊的正確方法
Shootings, terrorist attacks, natural disasters, end-of-the-world predictions -- even local news reports of missing kids and area shootings -- all of this can be upsetting news even for adults, much less kids. In our 24/7 news world, it's become nearly impossible to shield kids from distressing current events.
Today, kids get news from everywhere. This constant stream of information shows up in sharable videos, posts, blogs, feeds, and alerts. And since much of this content comes from sites that are designed for adult audiences, what your kids see, hear, or read might not always be age appropriate. Making things even more challenging is the fact that many kids are getting this information directly on their phones and laptops. Often parents aren't around to immediately help their children make sense of horrendous situations.
The bottom line is that young kids simply don't have the ability to understand news events in context, much less know whether or not a source of information is credible. And while older teens are better able to understand current events, even they face challenges when it comes to sifting fact from opinion -- or misinformation.
No matter how old your kid is, threatening or upsetting news can affect them emotionally. Many can feel worried, frightened, angry -- even guilty. And these anxious feelings can last long after the news event is over. So what can you do as a parent to help your kids deal with all of this information?
Tips for all kids 適用於所有年齡的兒童
Reassure your children that they're safe. Tell your kids that even though a story is getting a lot of attention, it was just one event and was most likely a very rare occurrence. And remember that your kids will look to the way you handle your reactions to determine their own approach. If you stay calm and considered, they will, too.
Tips for kids under 7 和小孩子（7歲以下）討論的建議話題
Keep the news away. Turn off the TV and radio news at the top of the hour and half hour. Read the newspaper out of range of young eyes that can be frightened by the pictures. Preschool children don't need to see or hear about something that will only scare them silly, especially because they can easily confuse facts with fantasies or fears.
At this age, kids are most concerned with your safety and separation from you. They'll also respond strongly to pictures of other young children in jeopardy. Try not to minimize or discount their concerns and fears, but reassure them by explaining all the protective measures that exist to keep them safe. If you're flying somewhere with them, explain that extra security is a good thing.
Tips for kids Ages 8-12 和大孩子(8-12歲) 討論的建議話題
Carefully consider your child's maturity and temperament. Many kids can handle a discussion of threatening events, but if your children tend toward the sensitive side, be sure to keep them away from the TV news; repetitive images and stories can make dangers appear greater, more prevalent, and closer to home.
At this age, many kids will see the morality of events in stark black-and-white terms and are in the process of developing their moral beliefs. You may have to explain the basics of prejudice, bias, and civil and religious strife. But be careful about making generalizations, since kids will take what you say to the bank. This is a good time to ask them what they know, since they'll probably have gotten their information from friends, and you may have to correct facts.
You might explain that even news programs compete for viewers, which sometimes affects content decisions. If you let your kids use the Internet, go online with them. Some of the pictures posted are simply grisly. Monitor where your kids are going, and set your URLs to open to non-news-based portals.
Tips for teens 和青少年討論的建議話題
Check in. Since, in many instances, teens will have absorbed the news independently of you, talking with them can offer great insights into their developing politics and their senses of justice and morality. It will also give you the opportunity to throw your own insights into the mix (just don't dismiss theirs, since that will shut down the conversation immediately).
Many teens will feel passionately about events and may even personalize them if someone they know has been directly affected. They'll also probably be aware that their own lives could be impacted by terrorist tactics. Try to address their concerns without dismissing or minimizing them. If you disagree with media portrayals, explain why so that your teens can separate the mediums through which they absorb news from the messages conveyed.